Is your wedding plans complete?

Have you thought of everything for your wedding?

That question, even for the most organized couple planning their wedding, can spark a bit of panic and or confusion. The list upon list of items like; photographer, reception hall, church and so forth have not listed this one thing that most couples often forget. It is the one item that may not be the most important thing but is a detail that will enhance the day. In fact it is the first activity that both bride and groom can do as couple that will be an exercise in working together. This activity could help build the skills in working together to move through what life throws your way. Not to mention with the running around meeting all the venders, this activity will bring the two of you together once a week in the same place. For most couples that are getting married and for the ones that are married, being together in the same place can be a hard thing to do. Have you guessed where this is heading?

I have attended many weddings both as a photographer and of a guest. In one particular wedding reception I attended I saw something that I had not seen before. The happy wedded couple had gone out on the dance floor and started to dance a familiar tick tock to the beat. This was not the interesting part in fact it was a very common dance step that I had seen at many first dances. No the interesting part is when the bride stopped, waved her finger at the groom, waited a beat or two and the couple had started a beautiful waltz for the rest of the song. To this day I have not seen anything like happen. Their first dance was not only the most memorable dance to them but to the rest of the people watching.

The one thing that most couples do not think of when planning a wedding is the first dance. Most couples go out on to the dance floor and climb in to each other’s arms and rock back and forth to the beat. First I would like to say I am not putting that down because before I learned to dance, tick tocking to the beat is what we did when my wife and I danced. To be honest my wife and I did not even dance on our wedding day. The reception was held in the basement of the church we got married in so there was not enough room to have a dance floor.

So why should we learn a dance for our special song on our wedding day? As a couple you have poured over all the small details to make this day the most memorable next to the birth of your child. You have hired a great photographer to capture the formal portraits as well as the candids. The dress, tucks, reception hall, cake, and dinner are all things you want to remember about this day. Why not the first dance? You have picked out the song that best sums up the feelings you have for each other, or perhaps it is the song you first kissed to. Whatever the reason you chose that song, you should have a dance that as a couple, will do with it for years to come. Brides; remember dreaming of that wedding day years back as a child? Each detail you have planned then is now unfolding right in front of your eyes. Now think, wasn’t there a dream of the first dance? Did it not go something like a waltz of an old Fred Astaire Grace Kelly movie? Why fall short now?

At the time you are planning your wedding is the perfect time you should find and enroll in a dance class. Most dance studios that teach classic ballroom dance have lesions structured for the couple that is soon to be wedded. They are simple short sessions that teach the basics of the dance you want to learn. Not sure what dance will go with your song? Don’t worry, bring your song in and the instructor will be able to tell you what dance will go with the song. I am sure you can even have your song played during your lesion.

So when your planning your wedding and you think you have everything covered just make sure you have down on your list “dance lesions.” It could be the one thing that make your wedding memorable for years to come. Oh and check out the dance club I go to. It is TC Dance Club: 219 Third Ave S.W. The number is 365-1275. Ken is a great instructor and you will have a lot of fun learning.